What do you do....? Autism Parenting

What do you do, as an autism parent, when your son needs more help and understanding than people are giving him? It's the first month of school and he has been suspended, sent home and has been held from riding the bus on three occasions.
Let me back up a little.
We are living with family, big change.
He's in a new school, big change.
Nothing at this school is remotely like his old school, biiiig change.
Oh and he's 10 and going through some hormonal changes.
So, his whole world is upside down.
Maybe he needs a med change. But I feel this school might not be right for him. It seems as though they aren't trying to get to know him at all. I'm at a loss. We haven't had this many behavior problems in over a year.
I feel like it's my fault. Like my decision to move is what caused this. But again, he was fine all summer.
So what now?
Well for one, I stop blaming myself. It's not my fault and it's not his fault either. I'm not blaming anyone directly because its likely several factors and because...autism.
Now we are going to have an IEP meeting and will discuss more ways of handling the aggression and what may be triggering it.
I'm currently waiting on his doctor to return my call.
I brought him home and helped him calm down, now he's relaxing on his own.
My job is done for the moment.
There is nothing more I can do right now except...take care of myself. Go through my own feelings about what happened and then relax. That's it.
As autism parents we have to learn that some things are in our control, and others are not. And sometimes we can only control so much of a situation before we have to give it up because....autism.
I'm getting a soda and I'm going to chill until the doctor calls.
Because...mom needs a break.

The forest for the trees...

I realize no one reads this.... Yet. One day someone might stumble across it by accident but right now, it's just me.

But I'm thing to share something right now that I feel needs to be shared, maybe it will help someone one day.

I've been down on my luck, it happens. I'm a single mother. I have a special needs child. I have very little support from friends and family. And I try to work as much as I can without child care.
Life is hard. Right now we are living with family after moving from an apartment we loved in for two years, that had bed bugs. The landlord wouldn't get rid of them and I couldn't afford to move. But when my sister had a free room I jumped on it.
So here we are. I'm sharing a room with my son. I had to leave a lot of our things behind and it was hard. Some is in storage but a lot is gone. I'm having a hard time finding a new place in my price range near my son's new school. He seems to be enjoying the school though. That's a plus.
I feel stuck. I know there's a way for time to work out I just can't see the forest for the trees. The solution is out there, I know it. I just have to work harder and keep my eyes open.
And that's the point. Giving up and not even trying would be so easy. But I can't do that because this kid who has no idea why his world got turned upside down, is counting on me to put it right again. I'm the one who is suppose to make things okay. So I have to try harder.
No matter what you are going through, don't give up. Keep searching for that solution. It is out there, you just have to look hard enough to look past your fees and worries to see it.

Blogging is Hard.... But I'll try

So this blog was just for the funny. I can never keep up with writing blogs. I tried and failed so many times. However I'm going to give it another go. I am not going to just be funny here. I'm going to try to give everyone a look at my life.
Single mom, autistic Prince, just trying to get by. So I'll try to update daily now and we will see how many people will actually read this.

Right now, as I'm writing this my son has a bucket on his head watching Teen Titans Go and repeating over and over "no doctor?" Despite the fact that he is fine now and the upset stomach he was sent home with seems fine. But he can't return to school for 24hrs now so I'll get to hear "no doctor" all day tomorrow.

It's fine. Really. I do my best not to discourage him from saying anything. It's hard though after the millionth time and he expects an answer, every time. So I answer.

That's something you have to learn as a parent in general. Not just an ASD-Rent. You have to learn patience. You have to learn what to time out and what to respond to. You have to learn that your response means everything to the kid at that moment.
I'm still learning. I think as a Rent, you're always learning. My dad would probably agree to that.

With that, I'm going to watch some cartoons with Prince and get ready for bed.